Actions Speaking Louder Than Words.

Everyday I rely on my nonverbal cues to communicate with others. I know that I speak a lot with my eyes. I speak a lot with my posture then I also speak a lot with my hands.

I talk a lot with my eyes because they can show many emotions like sympathy, happiness, sadness, anger, annoyance, and so on. I feel that speaking with my eyes sometimes helps me relieve some stress because I can say anything with them and people may not even notice it. I can look at someone like they are a complete idiot and they more than likely would not even notice that I am. It gives me the freedom to express myself without having to say anything, which I usually do with my boyfriend. It is nice when I can just look at him like “Really? You just said that?” and he will know exactly what I am thinking and will just be like, “Yeah, I just did.”

I know my posture says a lot to people. I have always been uncomfortable when I slouch and I know part of the uncomfortableness is the fact that my grandma always told me to sit up straight to walk with a strong stride. I know when people see me walk they may think I am a bitch or that I am overly confident, but it is what I have been taught and what has been drilled into my head. I know older people find it more acceptable and are more pleased because it shows that I still have some old fashioned values.

I speak a lot with my hands because it makes things seem more intense and help tell stories. It helps us describe what we are trying to talk about and it is more likely to help the person I am conversing with better understand me. I know that I am more likely to be more dramatic than a man because I am female and we tend to make things more dramatic than they really are.

I feel I use more tone though when I am talking because it shows more than some actions. Some times people will do another thing and then they will say something completely different. I definitely think it is because of my gender. Dane Cook does this joke about how ALL woman do the same thing during a fight and when I was watching I was like no I do not do that at all. Then the next time I was fighting with my boyfriend, I did everything he said women do and I could not help but laugh during the fight because I caught myself doing everything and he helped me realize that many of my actions are because of my gender up bringing. Like his joke said I would do certain things with my body and I did everything, I crossed my arms, put my leg in a way he described, and moved my arms the ways he described woman would.

I also recommend everyone to watch Dane Cook's Vicious Circle it is hilarious. :)