My style of online communication style varies on what I am trying to do. If I am trying to persuade someone to believe something I am very detailed with what I have to say. I give examples and definitions. When I am answering a question I am short and to the point. I am this way because that is how I am in person.
I do not feel the need to talk to people when there is real no point. If they are my friends I talk to them a lot and joke around with them, but I notice my responses in our conversation are usually one to two sentences long, while their responses can be a paragraph or two long.
I notice that I may be this way because of my dad. He is always straight to the point and I spent most of my childhood with my dad because he worked out of the house. If he asked me something I was expected to give him an answer and not beat around the bush and I have always been that way because of him.
I am like that on the phone as well. I do not call someone just to talk, unless I miss them and I do not text someone just to talk, unless for the same reason I miss them.
I feel the way I communicate to people shows them that I am straight forward. I tell the truth. I also have noticed many people who are short and direct are more likely to use sarcasm and there for can be funny which at times I am, but I also think people may think I just do not know what to say when in reality I know what I want to say, but what is not acceptable to say in certain situations. Like I always want to say "That's what she said!" when someone says something that can be taken with a different meaning, but I know I cannot all the time because it would be inappropriate.
I have noticed that my online communication is very different than my communication with someone when I am face to face. In person I am very open person to be people that are my friends, but on the computer I am not because I do not know if I can trust a person because I cannot guarantee the person on the other end is the person I think it is.
The fact that I can communicate freely with many of my friends makes my life freer and easier to live because I do not have to bottle my emotions even if I do not say a lot I am able to say what I need to say and I do not feel like I am being suffocated by my emotions because I am able to express myself even if it is not in many words.
I can completely understand your issue with not being so open online with people. Becoming a friend takes time and trust and if I can’t see your face than how they heck am suppose to be able to tell if you are a trustworthy person? There has to be some time involved in becoming friends with me online if I don’t know you in person.
ReplyDeleteI however have made friends online with people I haven’t ever met before mainly as a means to get information and things that would help benefit me. In a way what we are doing right now is sort of the same thing since I will probably never meet you in person but you are useful to me since I need you to help me complete my assignments, in this case the blog responses.
You made reference to your speech patterns coming from your father which is a normal thing. We tend to react in similar ways to things that our mentors/parents would react. There is nothing wrong with your style of being quick to the point. Most people don’t like to be led on, unless it is in a joking and loving matter if you are friends with the people you are currently talking to. I tend to be more laxed when talking to people I have known for a while as well. However sometimes being so laid back with people can be a bad thing if you aren’t too careful.