I never really thought of myself as someone who does a lot of talking with my body. Now, as I look at what I do all the time I cannot seem to keep my hands at my sides when I talk. I know when I try I look like a person who does not know what to do with my hands. Its like I have an invisible straight jacket on because I naturally go to move them, but I stop myself.
My mom always told me not to cross my arms when I am in public. She always told me I was being rude, that my body language said leave me the hell alone, when in reality I was more like “no, I am just trying to hide the fact that I have a belly and I am not rail thin like others”. She said that I should work on breaking that habit because one day I will try to find a job and would not be considered because my body language is not welcoming.
Needless to say I worked on it. I now cannot get my hands to stop moving when I am talking about something, especially if its something dramatic. When I am at work many customers comment that my eyes make them feel better and that I actually do care when I tell them I hope they feel better or to have a safe surgery or something. I do not know what it is, but I am guessing I have something in my eyes that makes them feel like they can trust me and I want them to feel that they can trust me because I basically know everything about them when you fill someone's medicine you know something about them that some of them do not let anyone know that they take.
Since school and softball have started, I have not gotten dressed in anything besides softball clothes when I go to school because what is the point in dirtying two outfits for one day? I do not see it. I know when people look at me and everyday I have work out clothes on and my hair in a ponytail that I am plain or lazy. Some might even assume that I am a lesbian, joke. I do not think any one thinks I am a lesbian and if they did I would not care, since my boyfriend acts like the girl sometimes. I say this like crying over something stupid that I said even though it was a joke. Goodness, that definitely reverses the roles a little.
I always carry myself proudly. I do not slouch. I walk with my eyes looking out and not at my feet even though sometimes I should really look down every once in awhile to make sure nothing got in my path and do not fall. I know when people seeing me walking they can tell that I am confident in who I am and I do not doubt myself.
It is good to be confident. I remember when I took a speech class my teacher would always tell me to never cross my arms, always look at the person and so on and so forth. But the truth is that it not only evokes better body language but it boosts confidence. When you are able to keep your head up and sit straight people look at you and nobody thinks you are conceited; in fact they want to be like you. There are so many people who do not have confidence and when they see someone else with that, it’s an automatic thought process where they want to do the things you do to bring on their own self confidence.
ReplyDeleteI think the thing you said about your uniform and a person thinking you are lazy is not true. This is coming from me though. Whenever I see an athlete or someone in gym clothes, my thought is that I applaud them. Even though a guy may reek of sweat, at least they are taking the initiative to be involved with sports and taking steps to a healthy lifestyle. Wear that ponytail proudly sweetheart because I know of people who would do anything to be in a softball uniform or sporty for that matter.